"He feels our weakness, knows our need
And for our good He intercedes.
All is well because of God's great love.
Through every failure, every fear
The Lord of comfort draws us near.
And all is well because of God's great love."
[sovgrace.music]
One year ago...
It was just a normal day.
I had a nutritious breakfast of cereal,
Then headed across the street to the ghetto Giant to drop of medicine.
Gatorade on sale? Sweet. I'll take three.
Grabbed some Cliff Bars, picked up my medicine, then headed off to class.
After a not so thrilling class I headed to my cousin's house for lunch.
Then, everything changed.
Dad had been doing some remodeling at my cousins house less than 10 minutes from school. So whenever I had a break from classes and RA duty I would go over and spend quality time sleeping on their comfy couch.
When I got to my cousin's house I was affectionately greeted by both my dad and my cousin (who was working from home). We sat in the living room, ate pizza for lunch [we are really big on nutrition] and just talked about life. My cousin asked me how school was, my students, etc. During our lunch time my uncle called me. I answered unsure why he was calling me...
"hello?"
"andrea. why are you answering your dad's phone."
"um, this is my phone."
"oh..."
[this is what happens when your name and your dad's name is different by only 1 letter]
I gave the phone to my dad and he went out front to talk to him, while my cousin and I continued to enjoy our pizza and conversation. He came back inside and sat down next to me on the couch and said something that I will never forget.
"andi. the doctor called back this morning. you are really sick. you have cancer."
Nothing could have prepared me for this moment. But yet here I was, in the middle of my cousin's living room, eating pizza. We said goodbye to my cousin and dad took me back home to maryland. It was the longest 40 minute drive I have ever experienced. But, it was full of texting RA co-workers to let them know what was going on and phone calls with good friends who shared scripture with me and prayed for me.
I expected to come home to just my mom and brother, but got so much more. Two of our very good friends were there waiting for us. They were there to comfort my mom and brother. They were there to pray with us and for me. Later my pastor and my parent's pastor came by to also pray for me. Later on that day my best friend came by to visit and make me laugh. This my friends, is the body of Christ at work.
After that day, I guess you could say the rest is history. We didn't know what was in store for us. We didn't know where I would go for treatment. We didn't even know what kind of cancer I had. But we knew that we serve a powerful God.
That weekend I came home was the last weekend of the current Youth Drama Production at our church. They were performing "Acts" - an original play written by the talented Cathy Mays [which I also happened to be apart of when I was in high school]. If you have been to any of these youth drama plays you know that they are nothing more than moving. And if you know the story of Acts, you know that the story of Paul's journey and suffering is inspiring.
After God revealed himself to Paul on the road to Damascus, nothing could keep him from sharing the gospel of Christ. Even through suffering, Paul knew that God had him there for a reason. And he trusted that God knew what He was doing, even if Paul didn't.
The next few days after coming home were uncertain. We didn't know where the road before us was leading. My parents spent countless hours driving to different offices trying to figure out the legal aspects of what was going on. I would be lying if I told you that everything was peachy in those few days. We trusted God even when we didn't know what was before us.
I remember leaving the youth drama production that night and seeing one of my dear friends, Brittany. We were talking about everything that was going on and in the middle of the conversation she gasped and said that she would be right back. She went downstairs to her office and grabbed the newest CD that was published by Sovereign Grace Music. That CD became one of our family's favorite albums to listen to during this time. The title of the album was "From Age to Age" and each song talked about how through all the ages God remains the same and He remains faithful.
Looking back on this past year, there is nothing I can do but to be grateful for what God has done. There were times where the road was uncertain and there were many times where the road was painful and difficult. During this time not only did my family grow closer together as we trusted and depended on God to get us through, but I truly understood the meaning of the body of Christ.
One year ago, everything changed. Within that year God tested me, I experienced suffering like I had never experienced before, but I also experienced more grace than I have ever experienced before. I can tell you many funny stories about doctor's visits, or hospitals, or how delusional I was on meds. But more importantly, I can tell you that our God is faithful and continues to be faithful even in the darkest of trials. If there is anything that I have learned from this whole experience, it has been that our God is unchanging and that the same God who was faithful to Paul so many years ago continues to be faithful to each and every one of us today.
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Friday, March 15, 2013
Youthlings with a Passion
"Not to us, but to your name alone,
Be all the glory, the glory forever.
For your faithfulness and steadfast love,
Receive the glory, the glory belongs to you."
[sovgrace.music]
I remember during my first year in high school, after my family had moved, many of my friends were involved in a youth drama production at our church. You could say that these plays were one of the highlights of the school year. They were full of fantastic youth using the gifts of theater and song to glorify God and advance His kingdom. Of course productions would not happen if there was not a highly trained director guiding us. Cathy Mays has not only been doing productions for many years now, but enjoys doing it. I don't know why should would want to spend her time with 50+ youthlings or even how she manages to deal with each and every aspect of putting together a show, but every year she steps up to the plate.
During my sophomore and senior years of high school I was blessed to participate in shows. Many of my friends were in the shows each year so I was excited to spend time with them in a non-school setting. Well, from October to March/April we sure did spend a LOT of time together. Sometimes maybe even too much time. We spent countless hours together singing, dancing, acting, laughing, etc. You could always look back on these times and remember the special memories you had together.
Last summer when I realized that I was not going back to George Mason I knew that I would have a lot of extra time and wanted to serve in some way. I was already serving on the youth admin team, and after emailing Mrs. Mays, I was now administratively involved in helping out with this year's play: "Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat" - which just happend to be the same play that I was in my senior year of high school. Talk about having memories flooding back.
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These high school students never cease to amaze me. Not only are they all super talented, but they are super humble. Their passion and love for Jesus is evident in the way that they desire to use their talent not to bring glory to themselves, but to bring glory to God and advance His gospel through acting.
But it is also no surprise that when you spend countless hours with each other close friendships begin to develop. We have become one big happy family. They have not only cared for each other as a cast, but have also cared for those individuals who are helping this production come to live. The guys even surprised all the girls one night by singing a heart felt Jason Mraz song during dinner and giving each girl in the cast a rose and all the female staff a small bouquet of flowers for Valentine's Day.
There have also been many times where I have been stressed with school, or not feeling well and the thought of going to a rehearsal is not the thing I want to do. But once you get there, everything changes. They constantly prayed for me when I was sick. They rejoiced with me and my family after my positive 3 month check up at Hopkins. They prayed for me when I was studying for and taking my Praxis exam. They celebrated with me when I passed the Praxis exam. They sang happy birthday to me 4 times during rehearsal. And even some girls brought me a cake for my birthday.
And of course, no production would be complete without the cast and crew having an uncanny ability to make you laugh multiple times at rehearsals.
These last few months I have realized that being administratively involved in the production is a lot different than actually being in the play. It involves thinking about and planning for each rehearsal. It involves teaching and re-teaching parts. It involves constantly telling high schoolers to be quiet and listen to instruction.
But it is also quiet rewarding. I mean, who wouldn't want to have play songs stuck in your head every single day? Or have nightmares about things going wrong during the productions? Or wake up in the middle of the night doing the hand motions to different songs?
In the last 5 months I think that I have listened to and watched run throughs at least 50 times [hence why I am singing these songs to myself as I am going to sleep]. The cast, and those helping, are very very familiar with the story of Joseph. But each and every time I am overwhelmed at the love and mercy of God. Despite our sin, despite our selfishness, God still graciously opens His arms for us to run back to Him.
We may go through trials and wonder if God even cares, or if God is even with us during our trials. Friends, even if we don't feel like God is with us, He is interceding for us. He loves us, and He has a plan for each of our lives, even if we don't understand what that plan is.
Be all the glory, the glory forever.
For your faithfulness and steadfast love,
Receive the glory, the glory belongs to you."
[sovgrace.music]
I remember during my first year in high school, after my family had moved, many of my friends were involved in a youth drama production at our church. You could say that these plays were one of the highlights of the school year. They were full of fantastic youth using the gifts of theater and song to glorify God and advance His kingdom. Of course productions would not happen if there was not a highly trained director guiding us. Cathy Mays has not only been doing productions for many years now, but enjoys doing it. I don't know why should would want to spend her time with 50+ youthlings or even how she manages to deal with each and every aspect of putting together a show, but every year she steps up to the plate.
During my sophomore and senior years of high school I was blessed to participate in shows. Many of my friends were in the shows each year so I was excited to spend time with them in a non-school setting. Well, from October to March/April we sure did spend a LOT of time together. Sometimes maybe even too much time. We spent countless hours together singing, dancing, acting, laughing, etc. You could always look back on these times and remember the special memories you had together.
Last summer when I realized that I was not going back to George Mason I knew that I would have a lot of extra time and wanted to serve in some way. I was already serving on the youth admin team, and after emailing Mrs. Mays, I was now administratively involved in helping out with this year's play: "Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat" - which just happend to be the same play that I was in my senior year of high school. Talk about having memories flooding back.
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These high school students never cease to amaze me. Not only are they all super talented, but they are super humble. Their passion and love for Jesus is evident in the way that they desire to use their talent not to bring glory to themselves, but to bring glory to God and advance His gospel through acting.
But it is also no surprise that when you spend countless hours with each other close friendships begin to develop. We have become one big happy family. They have not only cared for each other as a cast, but have also cared for those individuals who are helping this production come to live. The guys even surprised all the girls one night by singing a heart felt Jason Mraz song during dinner and giving each girl in the cast a rose and all the female staff a small bouquet of flowers for Valentine's Day.
There have also been many times where I have been stressed with school, or not feeling well and the thought of going to a rehearsal is not the thing I want to do. But once you get there, everything changes. They constantly prayed for me when I was sick. They rejoiced with me and my family after my positive 3 month check up at Hopkins. They prayed for me when I was studying for and taking my Praxis exam. They celebrated with me when I passed the Praxis exam. They sang happy birthday to me 4 times during rehearsal. And even some girls brought me a cake for my birthday.
And of course, no production would be complete without the cast and crew having an uncanny ability to make you laugh multiple times at rehearsals.
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| team Jacob + sons > team Edward and team Jacob |
These last few months I have realized that being administratively involved in the production is a lot different than actually being in the play. It involves thinking about and planning for each rehearsal. It involves teaching and re-teaching parts. It involves constantly telling high schoolers to be quiet and listen to instruction.
But it is also quiet rewarding. I mean, who wouldn't want to have play songs stuck in your head every single day? Or have nightmares about things going wrong during the productions? Or wake up in the middle of the night doing the hand motions to different songs?
In the last 5 months I think that I have listened to and watched run throughs at least 50 times [hence why I am singing these songs to myself as I am going to sleep]. The cast, and those helping, are very very familiar with the story of Joseph. But each and every time I am overwhelmed at the love and mercy of God. Despite our sin, despite our selfishness, God still graciously opens His arms for us to run back to Him.
We may go through trials and wonder if God even cares, or if God is even with us during our trials. Friends, even if we don't feel like God is with us, He is interceding for us. He loves us, and He has a plan for each of our lives, even if we don't understand what that plan is.
"I know that you can do all things, and that no purpose of yours can be thwarted." [Job 42:2]
If you are in the Maryland/Virginia/DC area, please consider coming to see these passionate youth re-tell the amazing story of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat. For more information please visit our church's website.
Thursday, February 21, 2013
Going to the Chapel
"Someday when you're looking back on your life
At the memories, this is gonna be one of those nights."
[tim.mcgraw]
My best friend was falling in love and I went and surprised her for the weekend. The time with her was spent going to Half Price Books, exploring this amazing antique store called Peddlers, getting lost in this huge 2-story forever 21, and of course lots of laughter. But, this visit wouldn't be complete if we didn't talk about boys. She wanted to know what was going on in my "like life" while I wanted to know how her and Drew were doing in their relationship. One night while I was there, we sat on her bed and watched some girly chick flick on Netfilx and once it was done she exclaimed, "Andi! Have you seen my wedding board on Pinterest?" Which then led us to talk about weddings, what colors she wanted to have, what styles of dresses her bridesmaids were going to wear, etc.
Well, it was January 23rd. I had just finished up my online winter class that I was taking [side note: taking 16 weeks worth of educational psychology information in 2 1/2 weeks..? You might as well start digging your grave. But thankfully I passed]. I texted DJ since I hadn't talked to her in a while because I was busy dying of educational psychology. So I told her how God had been encouraging me recently and given me peace in my circumstances. And then of course I asked her about what was happening with her "future things."
Shut. Up. Excuse me?
drew: oh. by the way, this is kind of a surprise. so don't tell anything to DJ.
Well, we talked for 7 whole minutes about how this was going to work out. I hung up the phone and immediately ran in my parent's room and told my mom. Did Drew know I text DJ everyday? Did he know how hard of a secret this was going to be to keep?? Well, once that phone call was done I have to admit, I tried my best to focus on finishing reading about the History of American Education. But, happiness got the best of me and I ended up on Pinterest looking at engagement pictures.
Now, I needed to convince DJ that Saturday was the only day I could hang out with her. After I had calmed down a little from that phone call I texted DJ and told her that I was super stressed with school and I had a lot of homework to do that week and due the following week. So I told her that the time on Monday before my class I should probably use to do homework. Then I asked her if we could hang out Saturday after her flight came in. The response? "I'll have to ask drew!" Perfect.
Fast-forward again.
It was FINALLY Saturday. I was just about dying with anticipation of her arrival and what was going to happen that day. I don't know how I survived keeping that secret for 5 days, but somehow made it through. I was up early for play rehearsal and I received this wonderful text:
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I heard a knock on the front door and dad's loud footsteps walking to answer the door. I ran upstairs and embraced my dear friend with excitement [she had no idea what was about to happen]. She said goodbye to Drew and we headed downstairs to my basement. I went to where I was sitting on the couch doing homework and buried myself in a blanket in front of the space heater. She followed behind me and asked if she could get a blanket and take her shoes off.
dj: wait. I can take my shoes off. we're not going anywhere are we?
me: no we're not going anywhere. we'll just hang out. make yourself comfortable.
Before you all start telling me that I am a bad friend and that I lied to her, I didn't. I simply meant that we weren't going anywhere in the next half an hour. So, we sat on the couch talking and catching up. A while ago she found some old letters that we wrote to each other back in high school - before the age of texting. And let me tell you something. If you ever want to be humbled, find old letters you wrote to your best friend and re-read them. So rich of wonderfulness. We read through all 3 or 4 of the letters I had written to her over the course of high school. Finally, I received the text.
drew: okay. I'm here. come out and tell me where I have to stand for you to take pictures
How was I going to transition to talking about old high school memories and needing to get upstairs and outside??
me: oh! so this morning before rehearsal I went to giant and got my choir girls lollipops because they have done such a good job this week with music and motions and acting, etc. and while I was there I grabbed some Nutter Butters in honor of your visit. But I was so busy after rehearsal that I left them in the car. can I go get them and then I'll come right back?
dj: sure!
awesome. stage 1 was complete. I grabbed my phone and headed upstairs. I got my coat out of the closet and grabbed my camera that was sitting on the floor. Went outside and shut the door. Drew was standing out front and I started explaining how she didn't suspect anything and how perfect this was. Until I realized that the door was probably locked and he wouldn't be able to go through the front door. Plan B: open the garage door. We walked around to the side of my house and I showed him where I was going to be hiding and where he needed to stand/kneel in order for me to take pictures. He departed and started walking inside while I hid on the side of the house.
As a photographer, you always imagine that things will perfectly work out. Well, let's just say they didn't. To begin with, when I first got into my little hiding place I stepped in a big pile of mud. Secondly, while I was waiting for him to go inside and bring her outside, my smart photographer brain decided that it would be a good idea to take a test picture to make sure all my settings were correct. I turned on my camera and took my test picture. There was nothing. My camera was not taking any pictures. Frantically I tried to figure out what was wrong, realizing that they would be out any minute. I found out that my battery was too dead to take any pictures. I jumped out of my little mud pile hiding spot and ran back through the garage to see if Drew was still outside. He wasn't. I contemplated going inside to get my other battery but there was no time. Breathe Andi. Breathe. I ran back to my hiding spot and remembered that my phone was in my pocket. Who says that you can't use 21st century inventions like iPhones to take pictures of your best friend getting proposed to??
So there I stood. In the mud, awaiting one of the most exciting things in my life, with my iPhone. And then, it happened.
After many gasps, tears of joy, and a random skater kid who walked passed them during the middle of the proposal, my best friend was now finally engaged. I started to feel awkwardly intrusive on their "moment", so I climbed out of my hiding spot and went inside to get the camera battery I had been charging earlier that day. I came down to the dining room to change batteries and since the door was open and they were standing out in front of the house, I figured that I would make up from earlier and take pictures.
They eventually came inside and celebrated with myself and my parents. My dad asked them what they were going to do next, and Drew happily said that they had a pretty packed schedule. So we both got in our cars and went our separate ways. They went up the street to DJ's other bestie's house and had a private celebration moment with her and her family, while I went to Drew's parent's house where the engagement party would soon happen.
Gathered were Drew's parents, DJ's parents and siblings, and some of DJ and Drew's close friends. There was also lots of yummy food. We were standing in the kitchen talking when the door opened and Nick, our "look out", came in and asked us if they were driving a green car. I said yes, and we all waited to congratulate them. "What do we yell? 'Surprise'? 'Congratulations'?" Well, I think it ending up being a mixture of both. "SURPRATULATIONS!!!!"
It was ridiculous how happy she was. If you gave me a dollar for every time DJ said "wow" or "oh my gosh" or "I'm getting married!", I think it could have got enough money to pay my way through the rest of college. You think I'm joking, but I am being completely serious. After they were done telling the proposal story we gathered in the living room for a "toast" by Drew's parents. And the rest of the night was filled with fellowship, fun and encouragement for the newly engaged couple.
At the memories, this is gonna be one of those nights."
[tim.mcgraw]
My best friend was falling in love and I went and surprised her for the weekend. The time with her was spent going to Half Price Books, exploring this amazing antique store called Peddlers, getting lost in this huge 2-story forever 21, and of course lots of laughter. But, this visit wouldn't be complete if we didn't talk about boys. She wanted to know what was going on in my "like life" while I wanted to know how her and Drew were doing in their relationship. One night while I was there, we sat on her bed and watched some girly chick flick on Netfilx and once it was done she exclaimed, "Andi! Have you seen my wedding board on Pinterest?" Which then led us to talk about weddings, what colors she wanted to have, what styles of dresses her bridesmaids were going to wear, etc.
Well, it was January 23rd. I had just finished up my online winter class that I was taking [side note: taking 16 weeks worth of educational psychology information in 2 1/2 weeks..? You might as well start digging your grave. But thankfully I passed]. I texted DJ since I hadn't talked to her in a while because I was busy dying of educational psychology. So I told her how God had been encouraging me recently and given me peace in my circumstances. And then of course I asked her about what was happening with her "future things."
I'm good. :) drew has been talking with my parents more. and having tons of meetings with our pastor. and 2 really big things, we are talking about apartments, budgets, and rings. And I tried on rings!!! We were at peddlers and he asked if I would try some on so he could see what stuff looked like on my finger. Oh man! Talk about butterflies!!!!!! And he was talking like he knew all this stuff about rings and settings and styles and everything!!!
Me being the encouraging friend I am, then proceeded to ask her if there was going to be a wedding this winter or next spring and when I would need to order my plane ticket to Kentucky. To which my dear friend responded, "Haha! Wedding... we'll decide that when he proposes. He promised it would be this year though! :)"
On February 6th Drew flew to Maryland for 2 weeks to work for his parents and earn more money. DJ would text me and tell me that she was a mess and how she "doesn't do well when he is not around." Then next day I got a text from her saying that she was coming to maryland. Her wonderful boyfriend bought her a ticket to come up here for 4 days to spend time with her family and friends. I was so excited to be able to see her, but I knew there were a lot of things going on that weekend for me and I was going to be busy. So we immediately started planning when I could see her. Since I didn't have class until noon the Monday she would be here I told her that maybe we could grab starbucks or something before I had to go to class. It was a date.
Fast-forward to Monday, February 11th.
It was just a normal day. I got up, did my normal morning routine, went to school, barely stayed awake in my classes, came home and started doing homework in my room. All of a sudden my phone started vibrating. So I looked to see who was calling. It was Drew. Something you need to know: Drew never texts me OR calls me. Knowing this I hesitantly picked up the phone...
me: hello?
drew: hi andi! how are you?
me: good. happy birthday by the way! how are you?
drew: pretty good. so I have a favor to ask of you. are you going to be around this weekend?
me: yeah I should be. I have rehearsal on Friday and Saturday and have to do homework. But I should be around. why?
drew: well, on Saturday I'm proposing to DJ when she comes. And I was thinking that you could take pictures and we could do something similar to the whole freaking out about Nutter Butters like you did when I cam and asked her out.Shut. Up. Excuse me?
drew: oh. by the way, this is kind of a surprise. so don't tell anything to DJ.
Well, we talked for 7 whole minutes about how this was going to work out. I hung up the phone and immediately ran in my parent's room and told my mom. Did Drew know I text DJ everyday? Did he know how hard of a secret this was going to be to keep?? Well, once that phone call was done I have to admit, I tried my best to focus on finishing reading about the History of American Education. But, happiness got the best of me and I ended up on Pinterest looking at engagement pictures.
Now, I needed to convince DJ that Saturday was the only day I could hang out with her. After I had calmed down a little from that phone call I texted DJ and told her that I was super stressed with school and I had a lot of homework to do that week and due the following week. So I told her that the time on Monday before my class I should probably use to do homework. Then I asked her if we could hang out Saturday after her flight came in. The response? "I'll have to ask drew!" Perfect.
Fast-forward again.
It was FINALLY Saturday. I was just about dying with anticipation of her arrival and what was going to happen that day. I don't know how I survived keeping that secret for 5 days, but somehow made it through. I was up early for play rehearsal and I received this wonderful text:
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Now, I just had to make it through rehearsal and get home and get ready for the 'big event' that was about to happen. I got home, ran around my house like a chicken with it's head cut off, got my camera from upstairs and put my dad's lens on it and laid it next to his photography equipment in the dining room to make it not look suspicious. Then, I anxiously did homework in the basement until 2:30 when Drew and I decided that he would drop DJ off.
I heard a knock on the front door and dad's loud footsteps walking to answer the door. I ran upstairs and embraced my dear friend with excitement [she had no idea what was about to happen]. She said goodbye to Drew and we headed downstairs to my basement. I went to where I was sitting on the couch doing homework and buried myself in a blanket in front of the space heater. She followed behind me and asked if she could get a blanket and take her shoes off.
dj: wait. I can take my shoes off. we're not going anywhere are we?
me: no we're not going anywhere. we'll just hang out. make yourself comfortable.
Before you all start telling me that I am a bad friend and that I lied to her, I didn't. I simply meant that we weren't going anywhere in the next half an hour. So, we sat on the couch talking and catching up. A while ago she found some old letters that we wrote to each other back in high school - before the age of texting. And let me tell you something. If you ever want to be humbled, find old letters you wrote to your best friend and re-read them. So rich of wonderfulness. We read through all 3 or 4 of the letters I had written to her over the course of high school. Finally, I received the text.
drew: okay. I'm here. come out and tell me where I have to stand for you to take pictures
How was I going to transition to talking about old high school memories and needing to get upstairs and outside??
me: oh! so this morning before rehearsal I went to giant and got my choir girls lollipops because they have done such a good job this week with music and motions and acting, etc. and while I was there I grabbed some Nutter Butters in honor of your visit. But I was so busy after rehearsal that I left them in the car. can I go get them and then I'll come right back?
dj: sure!
awesome. stage 1 was complete. I grabbed my phone and headed upstairs. I got my coat out of the closet and grabbed my camera that was sitting on the floor. Went outside and shut the door. Drew was standing out front and I started explaining how she didn't suspect anything and how perfect this was. Until I realized that the door was probably locked and he wouldn't be able to go through the front door. Plan B: open the garage door. We walked around to the side of my house and I showed him where I was going to be hiding and where he needed to stand/kneel in order for me to take pictures. He departed and started walking inside while I hid on the side of the house.
As a photographer, you always imagine that things will perfectly work out. Well, let's just say they didn't. To begin with, when I first got into my little hiding place I stepped in a big pile of mud. Secondly, while I was waiting for him to go inside and bring her outside, my smart photographer brain decided that it would be a good idea to take a test picture to make sure all my settings were correct. I turned on my camera and took my test picture. There was nothing. My camera was not taking any pictures. Frantically I tried to figure out what was wrong, realizing that they would be out any minute. I found out that my battery was too dead to take any pictures. I jumped out of my little mud pile hiding spot and ran back through the garage to see if Drew was still outside. He wasn't. I contemplated going inside to get my other battery but there was no time. Breathe Andi. Breathe. I ran back to my hiding spot and remembered that my phone was in my pocket. Who says that you can't use 21st century inventions like iPhones to take pictures of your best friend getting proposed to??
So there I stood. In the mud, awaiting one of the most exciting things in my life, with my iPhone. And then, it happened.
They eventually came inside and celebrated with myself and my parents. My dad asked them what they were going to do next, and Drew happily said that they had a pretty packed schedule. So we both got in our cars and went our separate ways. They went up the street to DJ's other bestie's house and had a private celebration moment with her and her family, while I went to Drew's parent's house where the engagement party would soon happen.
Gathered were Drew's parents, DJ's parents and siblings, and some of DJ and Drew's close friends. There was also lots of yummy food. We were standing in the kitchen talking when the door opened and Nick, our "look out", came in and asked us if they were driving a green car. I said yes, and we all waited to congratulate them. "What do we yell? 'Surprise'? 'Congratulations'?" Well, I think it ending up being a mixture of both. "SURPRATULATIONS!!!!"
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| "guys! I'm getting married!!!" |
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| tissues from her future father-in-law |
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| telling the proposal story |
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| telling the proposal story |
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| telling the proposal story |
It was ridiculous how happy she was. If you gave me a dollar for every time DJ said "wow" or "oh my gosh" or "I'm getting married!", I think it could have got enough money to pay my way through the rest of college. You think I'm joking, but I am being completely serious. After they were done telling the proposal story we gathered in the living room for a "toast" by Drew's parents. And the rest of the night was filled with fellowship, fun and encouragement for the newly engaged couple.
Dearest buttercup, we have been talking about and thinking about this day for the past 8 years. Wondering who your special guy would be, wondering when he would ask you out, wondering when you would get engaged. Well now all your dreams are coming true. It has been amazing to be on the outside of your relationship looking in. I have loved seeing how God has written your love story. I have loved being one of your best friends these past few years and making many, many memories with you. I am excited for this new season of your life and helping you plan the next few months before you get married. I love you with all my heart and couldn't be happier for you.
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| talk about some BLING! |
Sunday, February 10, 2013
Team Palm Tree (part 2)
"I am happy, because I get to live my life."
[bridget.healy]
haven't read part 1? click here
Just before the first semester of being an RA was ending, one of the "Quiet Hour RAs" [who lived in the dorms with students] was transitioning into an instructor position. This meant that someone had to fill the empty Quiet Hour RA spot. Yup - you guessed it! Instead of hiring someone else to fill the position, I decided to upgrade my status as a "Floater RA" to living the real college life in a dorm with three girls from the program. I had no idea what I was getting into.
I had always lived with my parents or with family, so this was my first real time being on my own for school in a dorm! The dorm apartments were not actually that bad. There were four individual rooms, two bathrooms, a small living room area, and a kitchen.
The three of us got very close during both semesters. When Katie was not on duty, she would come over and hang out with us and our students, do homework together, cook dinners together, etc. We were a team. There is no hesitation to say that Jenny was my hero this year. I could always count on her to be available to take care of my girls when I wasn't feeling well. I knew that she would always be there to talk with me about all my life problems [we had many late night chats] or to encourage me and pray with me about things I was struggling with. I don't know what I would have done without her.
[bridget.healy]
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Just before the first semester of being an RA was ending, one of the "Quiet Hour RAs" [who lived in the dorms with students] was transitioning into an instructor position. This meant that someone had to fill the empty Quiet Hour RA spot. Yup - you guessed it! Instead of hiring someone else to fill the position, I decided to upgrade my status as a "Floater RA" to living the real college life in a dorm with three girls from the program. I had no idea what I was getting into.
I had always lived with my parents or with family, so this was my first real time being on my own for school in a dorm! The dorm apartments were not actually that bad. There were four individual rooms, two bathrooms, a small living room area, and a kitchen.
Just like at the beginning of the fall semester, we had to be on campus the week before classes started for orientation week. The students didn't come until the weekend before classes started, so my week alone was full of lots of fun - which included ice cream parties with friends while we watched Disney movies, and I also threw in a few dates now and then...
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| date night for the win. |
The semester began and life as I knew it completely changed. I loved being more involved in the residential housing aspect of the program and being with the students. This new position as an RA was so wonderful, especially waking up at 6:00am every morning because your roommate next to you decided it was okay to play the Glee version of "Don't Stop Believing" on their CD player. We had our ups and downs, but ultimately at the end of the semester we were a family.
Fast forward to my second year of being in this program. One of my friends from church, Katie, was going to be a RA for the university, and another one of my friends also from church, Jenny, was going to be a Quiet Hour RA in the dorms - because remember, the residential housing program doubled in size.
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| me + jenny + katie |
The three of us got very close during both semesters. When Katie was not on duty, she would come over and hang out with us and our students, do homework together, cook dinners together, etc. We were a team. There is no hesitation to say that Jenny was my hero this year. I could always count on her to be available to take care of my girls when I wasn't feeling well. I knew that she would always be there to talk with me about all my life problems [we had many late night chats] or to encourage me and pray with me about things I was struggling with. I don't know what I would have done without her.
But before now, our moto "we bend, but never break" seemed cute and fun, but we never really understood what it really meant. At the beginning of last spring's semester, we had a plethora of students getting sick with the flu. The program's policy was that if a student does not get better within 2-3 days, then their parents need to come and pick them up [if they live relatively close by] to recover at home. One particular student in Jenny's dorm had the flu and her mom came and picked her up to recover.
A year ago today was just a normal day. I woke up, had breakfast, and at 10:30 headed off to my 2 hour and 40 minute "Intro to Integrative Studies" class [sounds fun, right? wrong. unless my professor brought us candy]. Once class was done at 1:15, I headed back to my apartment, ate lunch, and started working on some homework. It was a normal Friday until my phone went off. Normally I don't get calls from my uncle - especially when he's at work - unless he meant to call my dad, or he actually did mean to call me to give me his expert advice on my life. Even though this call was unusual I answered, and it would change my life.
"hello?"
"Andrea Grace. Where are you?"
"I just got out of class and am back at my apartment doing homework. why?"
"Is Bridget in the dorms?"
"No. Her parents picked her up a few days ago and she went home because she was sick."
"Oh. Well, I just got a call from Dr. Graff a little bit ago. Bridget passed away last night."
If I had ever had a "deer in the headlights" moment, this was it. I was speechless and could hardly breathe. I tried to make it through the phone call with my uncle without bursting into tears. In the span of just a few minutes after that call, I received texts from my mom [who was told by my aunt] and my cousin, both checking to make sure that I was okay. I was sitting on my bed, crying my eyes out, with no one physically to talk to about this. So I called a fellow co-worker who I knew wasn't in class and told him what happened, and cried even more.
Even though I tried, there was no way that I was going to be able to concentrate on my homework now. My mind was in a million and one different places. I knew that I would melt into a puddle if I stayed in my apartment any longer, so I got my wallet and went out for a drive. I didn't know where I was going, and I didn't care. I eventually found myself at the frozen yogurt place across from campus [i mean, after all "stressed" spelled backwards is "desserts" right?]. I slowly ate my chocolate frozen yogurt topped with mini chocolate chips thinking about this new reality.
I couldn't finish eating my frozen yogurt without feeling guilty that I wasn't with the rest of my students. Part of me didn't want to be around them because I was afraid to help them through this. My special education classes taught me behavior management strategies and how to teach students with special needs, but they certainly did not prepare me for this.
I finally made myself go back to campus and to be with my students and fellow coworkers. Walking in that building would never be the same after today. Some of the administrative staff were helping to counsel students about the situation, while others were comforting students with this loss. Between all of us in program, I think we killed about 4 trees with all the tissues we used. But on a more serious note - this day, this sad situation, would not only change our lives forever, but would make us closer as a team.
I got more hugs that day than I had in my entire life. That night was also the annual Best Buddies Valentines Day dance. "How do I make sure the students have a good time at the dance when I can hardly function?" I thought to myself. But that night, team palm tree united together like never before. As a Residential Housing staff, we talked with the director of the program about what things were going to look like the next few days. We all knew that it wasn't going to be easy, but what we did know is that we were going to help each other through this. After we were done we stood up in a circle with our arms around each other, in silence, until one of the guys looked up and encouragingly said "hey guys! we are team palm tree. we bend, but don't break."
Bridget was one of the sweetest people I have ever met. Every morning the alarm on her phone would go off to a "High School Musical" song. She enjoyed going to Mason basketball games, her favorite color was pink, and most of all, she was a great classmate, friend and roommate.
Her motto in life was "I am happy, because I get to live my life." How often do we go through life happy just because we get to live our lives? Many times we take for granted the countless blessings that we experience in this life. I'm not just talking about our physical blessings - houses, clothes, food, etc. - but LIFE! Every breath we breathe is an undeserved gift from God. The Bible says that no one knows the day or the hour. So not only should we be happy each day because we get to live our lives, we should seek to be happy because we get to live our lives for JESUS, our Savior - who willingly came to earth in the form of man, lived a perfect life, and took our place to die a cruel death on a cross being humiliated and shamed.
It's hard to believe that it has only been a year. Her memory will forever be in our hearts. Even though I had already withdrew from school, the "free time" I now had gave me a chance to put together this slideshow to show at the Mason LIFE graduation last May.
Rest in peace dear Bridget.
Bridget was one of the sweetest people I have ever met. Every morning the alarm on her phone would go off to a "High School Musical" song. She enjoyed going to Mason basketball games, her favorite color was pink, and most of all, she was a great classmate, friend and roommate.
Her motto in life was "I am happy, because I get to live my life." How often do we go through life happy just because we get to live our lives? Many times we take for granted the countless blessings that we experience in this life. I'm not just talking about our physical blessings - houses, clothes, food, etc. - but LIFE! Every breath we breathe is an undeserved gift from God. The Bible says that no one knows the day or the hour. So not only should we be happy each day because we get to live our lives, we should seek to be happy because we get to live our lives for JESUS, our Savior - who willingly came to earth in the form of man, lived a perfect life, and took our place to die a cruel death on a cross being humiliated and shamed.
It's hard to believe that it has only been a year. Her memory will forever be in our hearts. Even though I had already withdrew from school, the "free time" I now had gave me a chance to put together this slideshow to show at the Mason LIFE graduation last May.
Rest in peace dear Bridget.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Team Palm Tree (part 1)
"And the moments when my good times start to fade,
You make me smile like the sun, Fall out of bed, sing like a bird, dizzy in my head,
Just the thought of you can drive me wild,
Oh, you make me smile."
[uncle.kracker]
It was March 2010. I was a few months away from finishing up my associates degree at Montgomery College and trying to figure out where I wanted to go to finish my college career. Ever since we moved I had always said that I wanted to go to Liberty University [anything to get back down south]. But financially things didn't work out.
During the annual family gathering for Easter down with my dad's side of the family the topic of where I was going to continue school came up. My uncle mentioned that I should think about going to George Mason and working as an Resident Assistant for Mason LIFE. This was a program that he helped to initiate many years ago to allow students with intellectual disabilities to have the college experience. So he contacted the director of the program and explained that his niece was interested in being an RA.
Fast forward to May 2010. I had already been in contact with the director of the program and met with her. Then she pointed me to the Senior Resident Advisor, Lmya, for me to have an informal interview with her. I planned to meet her one sunday afternoon. I went to church that morning down in Fairfax with some friends and then went out to lunch afterward.
After getting a little bit lost going from the restaurant back to campus, and then getting lost on campus trying to find out where to park, I eventually found my way to the right dorm building. Nervously, I called Lmya and told her I was out front waiting for her to let me in. She kindly greeted me and we walked to her room. The walls were white and bare. The carpet was blue. The hallway smelled weird. And I had no idea what was in store for me. She introduced me to some of the students and then we had our little "interview". I don't remember much of the actual conversation, but the end result was that I was going to be an RA in this program.
Fast forward again to August 2010. The week before school started we had to be at campus for an orientation. So, my parents helped me move all my stuff to my cozy basement room in uncle and aunt's house, where I would be living for the semester. Monday morning I drove to campus [following the directions my dad had given me] and gave myself plenty of time in case I got lost. With a map in hand I wandered around campus trying to find the right building.
Once I found the room, the first day of orientation week began. The day couldn't have gone any slower. It honestly felt like initiation or something. In this room full of instructors and other RAs, I suddenly felt like a fish out of water. I only knew Lmya and another instructor I met over the summer at a summer camp my cousin attended. We did the typical go around and introduce yourselves, tell us what year you are in school, and an interesting thing about you. Why do people feel the need to know something interesting about you?
We finished the intimidating introductions and split for our group meetings. The small group of RAs came together and we began to plan out the semester. Do you know hard it is to plan a RA work schedule when you are trying to work around six people's school schedule? Talk about crazy.
At the beginning of our time Lmya gave each of us our Residential Housing handbooks. While handing them out she said, "You all might be confused as to why there is a picture of a palm tree on the front of your hand book. Any guesses as to why that is there?" When all the ridiculous answers were given Lmya told us we were stupid [not really..] and said "Have you ever seen a palm tree during a hurricane? When you look on tv, they always show the palm trees swaying and bending like crazy because of the wind, but they have strong roots and never break. This year will be a lot of fun, it will have difficult times, and we will sway and bend around. So we are team palm tree, we bend but don't break."
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| nationals game || sept 2010 |
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| cooking in Residential Housing |
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| gabe + jenny at the air and space museum |
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| manly men confidently holding purses |
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| jessica + greg (aka elvis) |
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| the girls and I going to Mason Day |
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| spread the word to end the word |
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| they celebrate the end of the semester a little strangely |
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| "hey gabe! i just farted..." |
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| 3D movie at the air and space museum |
The first year of team palm tree (2010-2011) consisted of 10 students and 6 RAs. We were a great family. One of the things we wanted to do as a Residential Housing unit was to do monthly activities. We went to a Nationals game, the air and space museum, national history museum, and did a lot of activities on campus.
But, just when I was getting use to our small family, the next year (2011-2012) our family doubled in size. Instead of having 10 students in 3 dorm rooms, we now had 23 students in 3 dorm rooms and 3 townhouses off campus [but close enough to campus to walk or take the bus]. Because there were more students in residential housing, you guessed it - that meant we needed 13 RAs instead of 6. That year's RA orientation meeting was fun. I thought trying to figure out 6 people's schedule for RA work was difficult. God bless Lmya for dealing with all 13 of us.
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| first dinner together of the 2011-2012 year |
With more people in Residential Housing not only brought more responsibility, but more opportunities for more fun. We went to dance parties the first week of school, went to movies on campus, went to the zoo down in DC, had cookouts at the townhouses, made "Pizza Wednesdays" a weekly tradition, had super bowl parties, went down to DC at night to see all the monuments lit up, went to the Kennedy Center to see a play, and over all enjoyed spending time with each other, even if it meant at 3am when some drunk guy in the building pulled the fire alarm and we all had to wait outside for half an hour in the freezing October night.
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| townhouse get together |
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| townhouse get together |
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| townhouse cook out |
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| zoo |
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| zoo |
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| townhouse cook out |
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| townhouse cook out |
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| zoo |
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| zoo |
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| zoo |
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| Mr. O likes to color in study hall |
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| Mason Madness 2011 |
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| mason madness 2011 |
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| mason madness 2011 |
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| kennedy center |
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| kennedy center |
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| kennedy center |
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| kennedy center |
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| dc at night |
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| dc at night |
The year and a half I spent at Mason and in this program was probably the best year and a half of my life. We all came from different backgrounds and even came from a variety of states. (Ohio, New York, Virginia, Maryland, Pennsylvania) But that didn't stop us from becoming one big, happy family. There were times when we laughed, there were times when we cried, and there were even times when we got angry with one another. But through it all, we knew that we were all here to support each other (we bend, but don't break). I feel like I have known my coworkers my whole life because we developed such strong friendships.
I learned this from first hand experience. There were many nights, before I knew I was sick, when I would be so exhausted that I couldn't make it until the 11pm curfew. So my dear coworker and friend, Jenny, would tell me to "go to bed and not worry about it and she would check and make sure the girls got to bed."
Last March, when we found out I was sick and dad took me home, was one of the hardest days. Not only because we found out I had cancer, but because I knew I had to take a medical withdrawal from school and leave my Mason LIFE family.
Words can not describe how much I love all my coworkers and each and every one of my students. These students are some of the most caring, compassionate people I know. Because I didn't want them to worry about me, they were not told all the specifics of what was happening. They just knew that I was really sick and needed to be home with my family to recover. But they didn't need to know all the specifics in order to be caring and compassionate.
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| get well note from a student |
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| get well notes on our RA board from coworkers and students |
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| a whole stack of get well notes from all the students in Mason LIFE |
Sometimes I wonder why I even went to Mason because it definitely wasn't my first choice. But God knew why. Before the world began, God knew that I was going to get sick. He knew that I would be away (from my family) at college when I was sick and He knew that I needed a second family to take care of me.
I do not regret that year and a half of my college career. If anything, during this time God showed me what vocation to pursue in life. I always knew I wanted to be a teacher and get my degree in elementary education. But little did I know that I would add special education to that degree also. I don't know if that would have happened if I hadn't been apart of this program.
As this new school semester is starting, I am torn because part of me wishes I was back on campus with them. However, God has called me in a different direction. But Team Palm Tree will always hold a special place in my heart. Some of us have graduated, some of us are graduating this year, some of us aren't in program anymore, but all of us can say that we were part of Team Palm Tree.
At the end of the first year, I made a slideshow for Residential Housing class to highlight our year. Enjoy.
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| kennedy center |
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